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Stuck Inside? Rainy Day Activities

8/3/2021

As social distancing and quarantine continues and the East Coast is dealing with a tropical storm, many of us continue to be stuck inside. And, if you are like me, you are running out of new ideas to keep the kids (and myself) from getting stir crazy. So, I am reposting some indoor activity ideas.

Stimulate the senses: sensory toys utilize the five senses and encourages a child's curiosity and self-expression. They can also be very calming and are often very useful with very active children (as long as you are careful not to overstimulate). Sensory balls, scented bubbles, water play and musical instruments are all examples of sensory toys. But, here are some ways to create your own sensory toys at home (the process of making them can be an activity in and of itself).

- Fun in a box.
Fill a box, plastic bin or cookie sheet with dried food such as beans, pasta or rice (with a spill mat underneath to catch the mess). Let your child explore using kitchen tools (measuring spoons, cups and funnels) or create a construction site with diggers, bulldozers and dump trucks.

- Create your own fill and spill toy. Grab a bucket, empty box or large cup and place soft, child safe items or toys in the bucket and let your child spill them out and fill them back up (you would be amazed how long that can go on!)

- Guess what? Fill a bag or a box with toys or household objects. Without looking, let your reach in and feel for an object and guess what it is. If your child is not verbal yet, just enjoy the process of feeling for a toy and pulling it out to see what it is. To enhance learning, describe the way the object looks and feels.

Get Crafty: Rainy days are great for getting creative. If you are worried about your artistic talents, remember that for children it is about the process and not the product, so have fun!

- Get ready for the holidays: make your own holiday decorations, cards, wrapping paper, gift bags.

- Create a mosaic: let your child rip up different color paper (or magazines), then glue the pieces onto a separate paper.

- Stuck with boxes until recycling day? Cut out doors and windows and make houses from those boxes. Let your child decorate the house with paints, markers and stickers.

- Children love to cook and bake! Probably won't work if you lost power. Give your child their own safe tasks (including helping clean up the mess!)

-Make your own play dough. Here are some recipes (some don't require cooking if you lose power). For added sensory stimulation, add essential oils to make it aromatic.

Oldies but Goodies: These classics can cure boredom:

- Turn your living room into a fort.
- Play hide-and-go-seek. For a new spin on an old game: hide a toy or stuffed animal and go looking for it together.
- Go on a scavenger hunt: create a list of items for your child to find around the house.
- Enjoy old games like "simon says", "red light/green light" or "mother may I". Not only are these games great for rainy days, but they teach regulation and listening skills.

Please share your ideas by commenting here. I could use some new ones for our snow day today!!

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How to Keep your child’s Minds and Bodies active this summer:

6/11/2018

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School is winding down and soon it will be summer. Parents often ask me how to keep their children stimulated and maintain the academic gains they made throughout the school year.
I recommend that parents prepare themselves and their children for the transition to summer ahead of time. Here are some tips on how to enjoy a low-stress yet stimulating summer.

Create a Routine
One of the beautiful things about summer is that you can slow down. But children thrive when life is routine and predictable, so maintaining a predictable routine throughout the summer can positively impact a child’s mood and behavior. Include in your routine, time for outings, downtime and consistent mealtimes and bedtimes.

Set Limits on Screen Time
   Setting limits on screen time can be a challenge during the school year and even harder during the less structured summer days. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends limiting screen time to 2 hours per day (this includes video games, computer games and television time), but most parents I work with find that their children are in better moods and rely less on screens when they watch less than 2 hours each day. The most effective way to enforce the limit is to be consistent about your rules about screen time, encourage your child to go outside and engage them other enjoyable activities.

Encourage Unstructured Play Time
Incorporate free play into each day. Children have fewer and fewer opportunities for unstructured play time which is beneficial for development and learning. Build in some time for your child to enjoy some unstructured play in the yard, at the playground or with their toys. If you can and they want you to participate, then join them. But, make sure to follow these tips when playing http://www.larosaparentcoach.com/blog/the-power-of-play (taking over their play can reduce the benefits of the free play).

Incorporate Learning into your day
   The idea that children only learn in school is a myth. Children are learning constantly. When children are skipping rocks in the creek they are developing impulse control, gross and fine motor skills as well as about cause and effect. When children bake a cake they are learning about fractions, measuring, and delayed gratification. When children are playing with their friends they are developing essential social skills including taking turns, empathy and negotiation. Take the time to garden with your children, go for a nature walk, make something together, play a game, create a reading hour and incorporate learning into your day through these activities.

Be Prepared with Boredom Busters
   Avoid the “I’m bored” trap by understanding what your child is really communicating when he says he is bored. Is he feeling anxious, does he need time with you, is he over or understimulated? But, it is not your job to entertain your child. You can gently offer a couple ideas or engage them in an activity, but encourage your child to discover the joy of independent play. If you want some specific ideas on how to manage boredom read here. http://www.larosaparentcoach.com/blog/boredom-busters

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Free Play Supports Deep Learning Over the Summer

6/11/2018

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“We have forgotten that children are designed by nature to learn through self-directed play and exploration” Peter Gray

Children’s brains don’t turn off during the summer because they are not in school. Children are constantly learning, by observing the adults around them, playing with their peers, reading the back of a cereal box, digging for worms in the yard or building forts. As adults we often think of learning as something structured, premeditated that results in a product. But, the reality is that children are constantly learning and it is our job as adults to provide the opportunity for the learning.

As the school year comes to a close, there is a lot of talk about the summer learning loss and questions about how to maintain a child’s academic gains over the summer. But, just because children are not in school over the summer, does not mean they can’t learn. But that learning does not necessarily have to involve tutors or hours completing math worksheets. Children learn through play and the more time they have for play (the right kind of play), the more likely they are to maintain those gains they made during the school year.

Author of Free to Learn, Peter Gray states, “Self-education through play and exploration requires enormous amounts of unscheduled time—time to do whatever one wants to do, without pressure, judgment, or intrusion from authority figures. That time is needed to make friends, play with ideas and materials, experience and overcome boredom, learn from one’s own mistakes, and develop passions.”

So, how can we support continued learning over the summer? Provide your child with ample opportunity for free play. Let your child make some messes (playing in puddles, making living room forts). Offer (but don’t force) activities you can do together (science experiments, baking, cooking, and gardening). Go for outings to the farmer’s market, library, playground, or local museum. Get outside as much as possible!

If you aren’t convinced that learning only occurs in books, here are some examples what children can learn through everyday activities.

A child’s job is to learn through play, curiosity, exploration and experimentation. It is a parent’s job to provide ample opportunity for children to learn in this natural form.

Watch for my weekly Tuesday Tip this summer! I will be sharing specific activities that encourage learning on my blog http://www.larosaparentcoach.com/blog/. Subscribe to get tips delivered right to your inbox.

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Guest Post: A Single Parent’s Guide to Relationship Building with Your Kids

2/21/2018

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As we watch our children grow up, we hope for the best. We hope that our efforts teach them to respect others, think independently, make responsible decisions, and pursue their own happiness. The best way to ensure they do these things is by doing more than simply taking care of their basic needs… you have to really work at building a relationship with your children.

As a single parent, you have your work cut out for you. You have to manage your resources, build a support network, and deal with the anxieties of parenthood-- all on your own. However, when it comes to building a relationship with your children, you form a deeper bond. Research also shows that single parents tend to be kinder to their children than parents who are married. Your child or children see how hard you work, how you are there for them, and they appreciate it in a way that is different from a two parent family.

Setting A Positive Example as a Single Parent

Being a single parent is not easy in any sense of the word. It’s important to take care of your mental health as you deal with complications that arise. Not only will it help you deal with what life throws are you, but it also sets a good example for your children. Life isn’t easy, as your children will learn as they grow. They need a positive role model that can show them it’s okay to admit when you need help and that making your mental health a priority is a good thing.
● Take care of yourself physically-- the mind/body connection is real! Eat right, exercise, and get a sufficient amount of sleep.
● Make time for the things you enjoy.
● Practice healthy coping mechanisms for stress.
● Ask for help from your support system if you need it.

Establishing a Deeper Relationship with Your Children

The parent/child relationship is not supposed to be that of buddies. You still have to act as an authority figure and a moral guide as your kids grow. The cool news is your relationship with your child is more unique and more profound than that of a friend. Here are some ways to build a deeper relationship as your child grows.
● If you have more than one child, make time to spend with them individually. It doesn’t have to be a big production, but make a date night once a month where you can catch up and give them your full attention.
● Be encouraging when it comes to the dreams and desires. However, it’s also important to be honest about the work that it will take to get there.
● Don’t be afraid to get into their space. Pay attention to what they like when it comes to movies, books, and other media. Ask them questions about their day and really work to get answers out of them. Sometimes children don’t speak up because they think no one cares, so it’s important you show them that you do.
● Be honest and real with your children. Sugarcoating things isn’t going to do them any favors in the real world.
● Have fun with you kids! Letting them see your silly side as well as your authoritative side prepares them for the duality of life.
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As a single parent, you have double the amount of work when it comes to raising your children. However, the bond between a single parent and their kids can be much deeper and kinder than that of married parents and theirs. Set a good example for them by taking care of your mental health-- you can’t care for anyone else until you care for yourself. It’s also important to establish a bond with your children without trying to be their buddy. Be there for them even when they don’t seem like they want you to be… They will appreciate it as they grow into healthy, well
adjusted adults.

Daniel is a single dad raising two children. At DadSolo.com, he aims to provide other single dads with information and resources to help them better equip themselves on the journey that is parenthood.

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Tuesday Tip: This Election is a Teaching Moment

11/8/2016

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With all the stress and tension around this election it can be difficult to talk to our children about it. But, this is a teachable moment. This is an opportunity to encourage our children:

* The importance of voting
* How to make informed decisions
* Respecting other people's opinions
* Using respectful language to talk about others

I have heard hateful words from young children's mouths about the candidates in the election and frightening words about each candidate. The concerns that many people feel about the election should not be passed on to the children. It is our job to make them feel that this world is a mostly safe place and the only way to do that is to talk to them in an age-appropriate way about the state of the world. And, if you talk to them about the challenges and tragedies and injustices in the world you keep in mind their age, help them process their feelings and help them problem solve ways to be part of the solution.

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Tuesday Tip: Food Allergy Awareness

10/24/2016

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Last week I posted about the Teal Pumpkin Project and making Halloween a fun and safe experience for children with food allergies. I wanted to follow up with some additional information about food allergies. According to FARE (Food Allergy Research and Education) 1 in 13 children in the United States has a food allergy. Chances are you, someone in your family or someone you know has a food allergy.

Not only can it be a life threatening issue, but it can be a confusing and frustrating thing for a child. It is hard for a child to understand why they cannot eat the same things as other children. Even if your child does not have an allergy, teaching her about food allergies helps teach her empathy, increase awareness of the issue and may even help keep a child with food allergies safe.

Food allergies is not an area of expertise for me, but rather a personal issue as it impacts some children very close to me. I hope that spreading awareness will help these children and future children to have a safer food experience.

So in order to support the cause, I am passing along some wonderful resources that I hope will be useful.

FARE (Food Allergy Research and Education) is an amazing resource to help people struggling with food allergies as well as for people who want to learn more.

No Biggie Bu nch has several children's books to help children with food allergies manage social challenges that arise with allergies.

Mimi's Baking Adventure has a wonderful children's book about baking an allergy friendly for a friend's birthday with a wonderful allergy-safe recipe included!

Allergy Buddies sell products that alert people to a child's food allergy.

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Tuesday Tip: Trust the Developmental Process

10/11/2016

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This past weekend I had the pleasure of speaking at the Eat-Sleep-Love Birth and Babies Fair on Development and Play. The main take aways from the talk were:

* Every child develops at their own pace
* Have faith in the natural developmental process
* Learning happens through play
* Play with your child
* Give your child ample opportunities to play
* Let them explore, struggle, stumble and get back up

I also gave them a development-at-a-glance handout that can be useful for having realistic expectations for a baby's development and as a guide for what a parent can do to support their baby's healthy development. I hope that you find it a useful tool too. Comment below if you have older children and would like me to create something similar for older children.

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Tuesday Tip: Stop and Smell the Roses

10/3/2016

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Everyday my children teach me about enjoying life's small pleasures. I can't say that I always appreciate it. I am task oriented and often focused on getting to the store; getting through the bedtime routine or getting the laundry done. My children, however, enjoy the process of the task and could care less about whether it gets done. They enjoy the walk to the playground as much as the swings once we get there.

I can't always indulge them. Sometimes we really have to get to the store before it closes or tackle the pile of laundry. But when I can, I try to enjoy the world through their eyes...noticing every intricacy in the sidewalk; waving hello to the people walking by; and noticing the sights and sounds around us. I try to reserve a time in the afternoon when my children can lead the way; when I can follow in their footsteps and appreciate the things I take for granted. During these times I enjoy the walk and don't worry about the destination.

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Increasing your child's emotional intelligence

9/27/2016

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"A child seldom needs a good talking to as a good listening to". ~Robert Brault

If we are able to listen, we will see that our children’s behaviors are telling us something. Their big tears, loud screams and stomping feet communicate that they are tired, angry or scared. The challenge is that when they are in this state, they need help calming down.

Last week I wrote about acknowledging children’s feelings as a way to demonstrate empathy, increase their emotional understanding and to help calm them down. In addition to acknowledging feelings, there are several ways to help children learn to manage their feelings.

Modeling healthy ways to manage your feelings is a very effective way to teach children. If your child watches you yelling when you are angry, that is probably the tool they will use for expressing their anger as well. However, if you express your feelings using calm words, your child will learn how to communicate their feelings calmly too. For more on modeling read this post.

Often children are frustrated because they don’t feel like people understand them and they don’t know how to communicate their feelings or needs. Teaching our children communication tools can be an effective way of reducing their frustration and helping them manage their feelings.

Another way to help children manage their feelings is to give them alternative behaviors (or coping skills). I taught my son at a young age how to take deep breaths when he starts to become agitated. It is amazing how it continues to help slow him down, shift his mood and can even make him smile. When things start to become tense, we take deep breaths together and it helps us both to calm down. Pay attention to what seems to calm your child…is it singing, whispering, or hugging? Then, listen for when your child is telling you he/she needs help calming down, and encourage him/her to use these tools.

Here are some ways play can help increase emotional intelligence:

* Hide- and- Go Seek reinforces connection and reduces separation anxiety.
* Jumping Jacks and movement can shift your child's mood (and yours!).
* Red Light, Green Light teaches emotional regulation.
* Laughing and tickling release negative feelings.
* Hugging releases oxytocin which can reduce stress and elevate mood.

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Tuesday Tip: Riding the Emotional Roller Coaster

9/26/2016

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Recently I observed a child alternating between tearful cries and hysterical laughing. The adults in the room couldn’t decide whether to laugh or cry either. This child was so filled with emotion he didn’t know what to do. A child’s experience of emotion can be so overwhelming and powerful that it can be difficult for them to manage. Let’s face it emotions can be overwhelming for adults too. Understanding and coping with emotions is a learned skill – we need to be their teachers.

We can do this by acknowledging their feelings. “You are sad because we had to leave the park,” or “it is frustrating when you don’t get what you want”. Acknowledging feelings demonstrates empathy and increases your child’s understanding of their own emotions.

Most adults appreciate when someone acknowledges our feelings. Empathy validates our feelings. It also comforts us and lessens those feelings of worry, sadness or anger. Similarly, children want our empathy. They want to know that we are attuned to their feelings. When my son is crying because he did not get the truck he wanted, I don’t need to give in to him to make him feel better, but I can acknowledge his feelings. “You are mad because you wanted the truck.” It doesn’t make the tears go away immediately, but it validates his feelings and helps him process them.

The simple act of acknowledging feelings can help children manage their feelings. Stay tuned for more ideas on increasing your child's emotional intelligence.

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