
You need to summon your patience.
You need to be present in the moment.
You need to make a connection.
When your child is whining, take deep breaths, smile and pretend she is talking in a voice that doesn't irritate you.
When your child is complaining about a chore, offer to help and make a game of it.
When your child is pouting, make her laugh.
When your child is on the verge of a meltdown, offer a hug.
When your child is in full blown tantrum mode - acknowledge her feelings and sit with her until she is calm again.
The best part of these techniques is that if they work, it can improve your mood, your child's mood and your relationship!