
Keys to Success:
Persistence, Coping Skills, Resourcefulness, Intrinsic Motivation, Delayed Gratification
Ways to help your child develop the skills that lead to success:
1. Believe in your child and her capabilities.
2. Expect your child to put forth effort and communicate this to him.
3. Step Aside: Don’t do for your child what she can do for herself.
4. Embrace mistakes: Children learn best through experience – provide an environment where mistakes and setbacks are tolerated.
5. Encourage Resourcefulness: Give your child an opportunity to come up with his own solutions to setbacks.
6. There’s more than one way. Model/teach that there is more than one “right” way so she is encouraged to keep trying different solutions.
7. Foster intrinsic motivation by encouraging your child to fulfill his own needs rather than yours.
8. Delay Gratification: Model/teach your child the value of patience, waiting and focusing on the greater goal.
9. Let go of the outcome: Parental anxiety can be a barrier to a child’s growth.
10. Process not Product: Praise your child’s efforts rather than praising her results or her talents.